tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3580987459140037495.post4374063560098917451..comments2024-03-18T10:29:20.125-08:00Comments on TriloBoat Talk: On-Board Economics: Toward a Gift EconomyDave Zhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13241033623115158564noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3580987459140037495.post-75688410864200555562014-03-30T23:37:50.462-08:002014-03-30T23:37:50.462-08:00One gift at a time; and gratitude for those we rec...One gift at a time; and gratitude for those we receive.Dave Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13241033623115158564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3580987459140037495.post-39745548996490249912014-03-30T23:35:12.204-08:002014-03-30T23:35:12.204-08:00Hi,
Certainly something to consider. Tough times,...Hi,<br /><br />Certainly something to consider. Tough times, any way we look at it. <br /><br />Sometimes that early departure isn't always the gift it might appear to the younger partner. Sometimes it is. I think full, open, and frank communication is ever so important.<br /><br />In my own experience of others' experiences, it's been almost the other way round... the person undergoing their terminal phase is so very often ready to go before those who love them are ready to let them go. In this case, their gift is to hang on a bit longer to grant some time - longer than we otherwise might - to make peace with our transition. And on the other side, to let the departing spirit go.<br /><br />The trick with gifts is to grant the recipient <i>their</i> heart's desire, as best we're able. Not always what we'd choose for them or ourselves.<br /><br />And the intimate habit of honesty and full disclosure practiced over a life together, it seems to me, is the best way to understand the other's heart.<br /><br />Fair winds to us all at the end of the day!<br /><br />Dave ZDave Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13241033623115158564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3580987459140037495.post-39423479048752502822014-03-30T16:27:31.008-08:002014-03-30T16:27:31.008-08:00We need somehow to extend the range of the gift ec...We need somehow to extend the range of the gift economy beyond the closely intimate, I think.Peterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09074125801234414010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3580987459140037495.post-31543244016273794802014-03-30T16:25:14.465-08:002014-03-30T16:25:14.465-08:00For a couple wide apart in years, bound by that sa...For a couple wide apart in years, bound by that same heartfelt economy-of-gift you discuss, it isn't beyond the realm of possibility for the aging older partner to choose (as a gift) to consciously depart, rather than to inflict an ever increasing (and life constricting) burden upon the younger partner. Or so I've been thinking... This would be doubly so, perhaps, if a wasting terminal disease were stumbled over.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com